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What is worry about you?
How should one respond to being told...”I worry about you?” Should they be worried? Why would they be worried? If there is nothing to be worried about, must they be asked, “why they are worried?” It is a change in behavior or maybe no change in behavior that is so worrisome? Showing emotion? Not showing emotion? This is very important and much more than you may want to think because worrying about someone is vastly different from caring about them. Worry denotes deficiency, a lack of ability, negativity, it is judgmental. Caring about someone denotes you love them and see them struggling and you want to help and support them.
Here’s the thing if you keep the behavior unchanged … the behavior that causes people to worry about you becomes the source of more worries. Aren’t we all to be worried about in such times. Is reassuring them there is nothing to worry about the route to go. Why worry now? Lose your temper? Sob? Take charge? Ask the same question back at them, to potentially make them question themselves?
However, when something is really wrong and worrying is needed there will not be any need for concern because nothing is different about you.
It simply means that there are things we must do when we have people in our lives who care about us...worry about us, by worrying about their worrying, about us!
We still have a long way to go to get to a destination of “normal...a worry less state.”
I had a meeting with my boss and she kept telling me...”I worry about you.” I know I have been struggling as a leader during this pandemic, but her worry stems from the fact that I cannot keep up—14 hour days, 7 days a week for 8 months is hard. It wears on your mind, body and soul!