A bi lesbian is a woman or non-binary person who relates both to the « lesbian » and « bi » label. This label might be used by people who:
-feel attraction to women and non-binary people, but not to men
-uses the split attraction model, and identifies as either bisexual homoromantic (sexual attraction to two or more genders, romantic attraction to the same gender) or homosexual biromantic (sexual attraction to the same gender, romantic attraction to two or more genders
-identify as lesbian due to trauma with men and not wanting to be in a relationship with them
-Who Have DID
- see their identity as fluid, or potentially prone to change as time goes on
-are a lesbian discovering her partner is a trans man, and still being attracted to him as a man, even though she isn’t attracted to men usually
-experience extremely rare attraction to men, to the point where it’s almost inexistant
-are choosing to go with the historical definition of lesbian (as it used to be a term encompassing all wlw until 50 years ago)
-are simply questionning
Among others.
Mary relates both to the « bi » label, and the « lesbian » label. She chose to label herself as a « bi lesbian » as she feels attracted to women and some non-binary and agender people. She is free to pick whatever label she sees fits her best, as this label only defines her, Not other people, who might also choose to identify as however they see fit.
An often-controversial label most oftenly used to describe:
1) A woman who experiences homosexual and biromantic attraction or vice versa;
2) A woman who experiences attraction to member of their own gender along with non-binary genders;
3) A woman who experiences bisexual attraction with preference to members of their own gender
A lesbian that is attracted to more than one gender. May or may not be attracted to men, as some bisexual people define their attraction as to “two or more genders” not “attraction to men and women”.
May or may not use the SAM. There are infinite reasons someone identifies this way.
A bi lesbian typically refers to someone who prefers feminine nonbinary people, but doesn't want to misgender them. It can also refer to someone who is sexually attracted to women but will date men. In their minds, the 'lesbian' part in this refers not to girl on girl, but is referring to the femininity of the gender they are attracted to. This isn't the best way to call themselves, however. They should call themselves "bi with a female lean," because lesbian is a term that means female on female, and bisexual contradicts that.
This term is used to explain Mspec (Multisexual) people with an emphasis on attraction to women in one way or another. This term means different things to different people, but defintions include:
- A Bisexual Homoromantic
- A Homosexual Biromantic
- One who is attracted to women as well as feminine Non-binary people and wishes to not misgender Non-binary people by lumping them in with women.
- One who is attracted to more than one gender, but whose primary attraction is with women
A Bi Lesbian is NOT a Bi person with a preference for women.
(Note: This definition also applies to Pan Lesbians)
Person A: "What did you say your sexuality was again?"
Person B: "I consider myself a Bi Lesbian."
Person A: "That's right! Thank you for reminding me."
An oxymoronic label some people are insistent on using that invalidates both the bisexual and lesbian communities. If someone experiences any sort of attraction to men they are NOT a lesbian. If someone is bisexual with a preference for women they are a bisexual with a preference. Stop being afraid of calling yourself bisexual and insisting on clinging to labels that don't apply to you.
Girl 1: Yeah, I'm a bi lesbian! I'm romantically attracted to women and sexually attracted to men and women!
Girl 2: Girlie please be fr, you can't be calling yourself a lesbian if you're attracted to men in any way...
1. A bisexual or biromantic person with a female or feminine gender identity who is attracted to people with female or feminine gender identities and nonbinary people.
2. A bisexual person with a female or feminine gender identity who is homoromantic.
3. A biromantic person with a female or feminine gender identity who is homosexual.
4. A bisexual or biromantic person with a female or feminine gender identity who has a heavy female leaning.
5. A double-binary or intersex person who is attracted to people with female or feminine gender identities.
The equivalent for male/masculine people being attracted to male/masculine gender identities is "bi gay".
a biromantic person who is sexually attracted to other women, primarily/exclusively, and/or primarily romantically attracted to other women
2. a bisexual person who is romantically attracted to other women primarily or exclusively, and/or primarily sexually attracted to other women
3.
a bisexual and biromantic person who is primarily attracted to women romantically and/or sexually
4.
an identity denoting one of the following previous definitions
Person 1: I am a bi-lesbian.
Person 2: What do you mean?
Person 1: I mean I am biromantic and bisexual, but I am primarily attracted to women both romantically and sexually.
Person 2: oh ok
A bi-lesbian is a female who identifies herself as mainly lesbian first, but who also enjoys occasional sex with men, but her preference being to have sex with other women.
A bisexual female that prefers sex with other women
"Yeah, I know I said I'm bisexual honey, but I do prefer doing it with other women," She told us at the club.
"My wife is bisexual, so we have this other chic we both do, but she says she is bi-lesbian and prefers to do it mostly with my wife."